It's been a process, but the more I hone my style, the happier I am when I slide my closet door open.
I've learned to give myself some leeway. The freedom to buy clothes, wear them for as long as it takes for me to decide if I really like them, if they meet my expectations, or if they fall short--and if they fall short, then I allow myself to discard them without feeling guilt over the money spent. Because I'm learning. I'm learning what to pay attention to when looking at clothes and I'm also learning that when you try something on in the store vs. actually wearing it out, that's when you really learn if you love something.
I have dresses I thought I loved, but they actually ride up on me.
I have camis that I wear, but they ride up and become midriffs.
I have dresses that are too short for my comfort, but I keep them planning to wear them on a super casual afternoon that never comes because I'm never comfortable enough to wear them.
And all these things pile up, taking up space, because I feel too guilty to get rid of them. Keeping items I don't love brings me so much unhappiness. And so I refuse! I refuse to keep them! And out they go now.
What I'm working towards now is having a quality, neutral, classic wardrobe with pieces I love that span time and trends.
Building a wardrobe you love is a process.
And also really thinking about purchases. How versatile they are. How many other pieces can I wear them with? How many events can they be worn at?
Determining what you love and what complements you. Coming to terms that those are two different things.
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